Don't get me wrong, there are still plenty of people in my family who have done the big, expensive weddings. My reception was big but not expensive. My parents always talk about how their "big" wedding cost $300 (lots of people, but everything came together cheaply). So they complained a lot about what I wanted for my reception. But mine was under $1500 (including the dress and flowers) so a lot more than theirs, but nothing compared to some. I just about die when I hear that some budget more for a wedding gown than we paid for our first real car.